How our thoughts create our reality...

So, when is the last time you decided to make a change in your life and what was that change?  Did you want to lose weight, stop smoking, have better relationships, continue your education? 

How successful were you in reaching that goal? 

Long before we actually start the process of reaching a goal/making a change, our brains go through the process of weighing out the likelihood of our success or failure.  The thoughts that are created as a result of that process better determines the likelihood of success or failure.  Our thoughts create energy and whatever that energy is, the universe picks up on it and "creates our thoughts".  So whether or not you take action towards the change depends more on that early thought process than the steps towards the goal.

Don't get me wrong, the action steps are a very important part of the change process, but those initial thoughts (conscious or unconscious), play a key role in your success.

Think about a goal you've wanted but struggled to reach.  Now go back to your thoughts regarding making the changes to reach that goal...  be honest.  Most of us tend to lean towards the negative thoughts - even if you think you are a positive person, this can be tough.

As I said before, those early thoughts create universal energy that signficantly impacts our ability for success or failure.  Even worse, if you go and tell people your plans, they will often reinforce your negative thoughts with their negativity by telling you how hard it is going to be which sabotages your efforts to reach your goal.

In reaching my goals, I've learned that it is just as easy to think positive thoughts about how to get there than it is to think the negative ones.  Yet, it can feel challenging to do this.  This is because that negative energy is so much stronger than the positive ones.  But when you focus on positive thinking more often, you will eventually reach a place of finding it difficult to focus on the negative.  The positive energy released from positive thinking goes out to the universe, the universe hears you and you will start to notice people, places, and things put into your path to help you acheive your goals almost effortlessly!!

Next:  Examples of how positivity has helped me reach goals.

'Til next time: Practice positivity!!

Sue

All you have to do is ...

Part of my job as a therapist is to empower people to make changes to better their lives.  One of my favorite sayings is... "to change, all you have to do is to do something different".   The first time I heard that, I thought how simple it sounds.  Yet, when most of us embark on the journey to making a change in our lives, that simplistic idea can become a huge mountain!

Life changes daily at such a rapid pace.  Especially when it comes to things like technology.  Change makes us feel like we are on shaky ground... our stability is is gone and fear sets in as we begin to wonder if we can navigate through the change(s).  I truly believe that is why most of us are such creatures of habit... our habits/routines provide us comfort as everything around us is in a constant state of change. 

So, when we embark on trying to change something, like trying to eat healthier, it can seem so daunting!

I have attained a lot of the goals I've set for myself over the years.  Goals are changes that we choose to try to implement.  I've learned many tricks to attaining goals/managing changes that I'd like to share with you so that you can navigate the changes that are forced upon you and be successful at the changes you choose to reach your goal.

Change is a process, not an event.  Yet, we live in a society of instant gratification, so that when a change doesn't happen as fast as we want it to, we give up.   So, the first step is to change your thought process to where you see a change as a series of small steps rather than this grand event that happens almost instantly. 

One thing I've learned while going through personal changes is that one of the greatest things about the process is the actual process.  I discovered many things about myself that both invigorated and scared me.  The invigoration motivated me more, the fear taught me that being afraid is ok and that I could get through it...

Next post:  What are the small steps to change? 

'Til next time...  stay positive...